I’ve noticed a disturbing trend on the internet lately. I saw a disparaging comment on Twitter about people who favorite a tweet but don’t re-tweet it. Occasionally you’ll come across a blog that calls out “lurkers” who visit the website without leaving a comment. Almost daily there is a topic on the Etsy forums griping about people who put items on their favorite lists without intending to buy them. Let’s talk about that last one, because it’s the one I have the most personal experience with.
I, along with many others, mark Etsy items as favorites because they are my favorites. It’s me supporting an artist I love. It’s a way of bookmarking a product I might buy later. It’s how I say, “OMG, that is the coolest thing I’ve seen today, but there’s no way I could ever afford it.” It’s the way I brainstorm gifts that would be perfect for people I know. It never occurred to me that I was obligated to buy whatever I favorited, or that my compliment would be resented.
This if-it’s-not-a-sale-it’s-worthless attitude is kind of offensive. Shouldn’t we be happy about favorites? A favorite is proof that someone thinks you’re neat. Complaining about being favorited without a sale is like saying, “You said I look hot, but I’m mad because you didn’t rip off my clothes and fuck me silly.” Ungracious much?
While we’re ranting, how about those jerks who think prefacing an insult with “I’m sorry, but…” is an adequate substitute for manners? Do they really think we can’t tell that they’re assholes if they cleverly camouflage their assholery by apologizing in advance? Pro tip: A comment you know you’ll have to apologize for is hardly ever worth saying. And here’s a newsflash for people who don’t ever tip at restaurants: Everyone hates you. Everyone. I just got off the phone with your mother, and she hates you, too. And kids these days! Why can’t they stay off my lawn?! AND ANOTHER THING…
Ahem. Sorry about that. I got a bit carried away.
Seriously, though. A “like” in any context is someone saying they think you’re cool. It’s a compliment. Would it be super awesome if they bought something? Of course. But it’s still a little bit awesome when someone marks your stuff as a favorite, and the world can use as much awesome as it can get.